Hate is such a funny word. It’s a word we have all said probably a million times in our lives.
I hate broccoli, I hate math, I hate my thighs, I hate Mondays, I hate….
And most of the time, we think we mean it when we say it. But I guarantee you, life will always find a way to change your mind. Even your taste buds change their minds after a while about that broccoli.
And as long as you are alive, you can change your mind.
Love on the other hand, we try not to use it too much. We are afraid to say we love something, or more importantly, that we love someone.
Why is that?
Is it because we know deep down that love never dies? That once we love, it is forever?
I mean, you don’t love ice cream and then suddenly try it one day and say, “you know what, this is just not that great.” Our hearts never stop loving, even in death. To me, that is amazing. That we can still love something so intensely even after it is completely gone.
We were given love as a forever gift.
We love forever.
Wrap your head around that for a minute. Love is a gift that we were born with and are meant to enjoy forever.
Hate on the other hand, we created. And the crazy thing is, it was created because of love.
They say there is a thin line between love and hate. Loss of love can sometimes feel like hate. Because love is so powerful that it can overcome us and leave us feeling helpless. But hate isn’t that strong. Hate fades with time and wavers with every passing day. We are constantly fighting a moral battle within ourselves to stop hate. It is fleeting and unnatural. It doesn’t feel good for a reason, because it is a disease that our bodies reject.
We created hate to hide our feelings of hurt, and anger, and lack of self-worth. It’s a fight or flight instinct to push against the things that are challenging us. Challenges are there to make us better, but when we feel inadequate, we find something to hate so we don’t have to look at what is going on inside of us that we need to improve.
We created hate and life does everything it can do to change our minds. Now shouldn’t that tell us something?
But hate isn’t forever. It is just not strong enough to last. And that is because hate is darkness. And none of us wants to be in the dark. We were born into the light and at the end, we go back into the light.
Love is the light in the middle that holds us together. Love is a beautiful reminder that we are here for the benefit of one another. That we need each other to bloom, to flourish, to thrive. If we love, there is no room for hate. Love wins every single time. Every single time. Because it feels good, and don’t we all want to feel good?
“Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you” ~ The Beatles